Scandal

A few years ago when I had just broken up with my long-term boyfriend, a well-intentioned Christian friend came up and said to me, “Beware of falling into sin in this difficult time.” [Warning: explicit content ahead]

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Dust to Dust

All your acting / Your thin disguise / All your perfectly delivered lines / They don’t fool me / You’ve been lonely / Too long

Our image of romantic love evolves. I used to want the all encompassing, drama-filled, crazy can’t-live-without-you love. As I got older Continue reading

God, are you a misogynist? On winning the war on women

The amount of violence in this world against women baffles me. Although we live in an age where there is an unprecedented number of women in power – e.g. first German chancellor Angela Merkel, USA second-time presidential candidate Hillary Clinton, IMF managing director Christine Lagarde, just to name a few – there continues to be a stark inequality prevalent in society between the male and female gender. Violence/inequality/fear – these are some of the words that pop up when I think about my female identity amid a developed, cosmopolitan city. Continue reading

Women friendships – go to the source during conflict

Guy-Guy vs Girl-Girl Relationships

friendship_holding_handsI often argue with my fiancé about guy-guy friendships versus girl-girl friendships. He thinks guys are simpler and more straightforward. Have a beer, play some ball, and everything’s fine again. Girls on the other hand, cat-fight, get jealous, and are generally prone to a lot more back-handed competition. That’s his point of view. Being generally protective of my own gender and to tone down his swelling ego as being part of the ‘cooler’ male sex, I rebutted. Not true. It’s not a sex thing, it’s a personality thing. People can get along fine, be good friends, as long as their personalities mesh.

My point may have been made for the sake of argument. Truth is, I can’t help but feel that girl-girl friendships are indeed more complicated than the guy-guy friendships I know. Continue reading

In solitude we are real

Anonymous Blogging

When I started this blog I contemplated linking it to my real profile. Finally decided against it because I will never be able to write what is true. I will self-censor, editing away the parts I fear will hurt or damage, deleting those moments that I find too embarrassing Continue reading